Someone asked me recently how I cultivate self love and self compassion, here are a few things I shared about my personal practice:
- Seeing myself as someone deserving of tenderness and gentleness
- Being honest with myself about how berating myself isn’t a productive way to bring about growth and change. All things need light, patience, and kindness to bloom, including us humans.
- Going back in time and writing letters to younger versions of myself. I realized that in retrospect I was actually really proud of those versions of myself even though at those times all I could focus on were the things I didn’t like about myself. I never want to look back in 30’s and feel bad about how I treated myself in my 20’s.
- I wanted to become a safe person for myself, someone I could trust with all the extremes of my emotional depth